Category: Let's talk
Ok, I have been wondering about this. I have been using folks on campus to answer this very question and now it's the zone's turn. What is one thing a person could do on a first date with you, that would garentee they would not, get a second date with you?
If they didn't make an effort in conversation that would kill their chances. I understand some people like to listen but first dates are for sharing so it should be a two-way flow. If I'm doing all the work then they're either bored or nervous, both of which are no-nos for second date possibility.
On a related note, is there a case for being fully upfront on the early dates? I mean how long do fellas wait before starting the nut-scratching? And ladies only let their psychotic, irrational side show about six months in. I say get it all out on the table in the early dates so we know exactly what we're in for! Hee hee
The one thing that would vito a man's chances for a second date with me would be his eating habits. If ya chew with your mouth open, don't want you. If you pick food off my plate, definitely don't want you or if you drop food, shout "five second rule!" and eat it...yeah, I'm pretty much going to "powder my nose" for the rest of the date.
Ah, good one. Dusty don't share food either.
But I wonder what kind of dates you've been on? "Five-second rule"?!
Hahahaha, pretty hideous ones which is why I'm holding onto this one for dear mercy, hehehehehehe.
Rofl. Omg. Nem, have you seen the movie called Blind Dating? Some of the things in there cracked me up. Like, when one of the girls the blind dude went out with cried the whole time she was with him. Or the other chick he went out with who insisted on carrying him from the car to the restaurant. LOL. I can see how he wouldn't have wanted to go out with those girls again.
Anyway, one of the things that would kill a date for me is if the guy started confessing his undying love for me. This has actually happened before, and I can say I never went on a date with him again.
I would add more to the list, but you said one thing! *cry*
-- Allie
One thing that would turn me off is if he said he'd pay, and when we went out he decided he didn't have enough money. I have more, and I'm gonna share 'em. I don't care if you said one thing, I like to talk so... Deal with me... Heeheehee.
1 they tro to cop a feel
2 they stink
3 they try to tell you they already love you and wanna spend their life with you
4 they curse at you and call you dirty names or get physical with you
Yeah. All those will qetty much mean I'm either taking a cab home, praying for it to end or punching your lights out.
I agree with several of the points made above. If a guy just sits there while I do all the talking, not even putting a word in now and then, I don't think I'd go out with him again. Also, certain topics of conversation are a real turnoff. I wouldn't want someone asking a lot of personal or intrusive questions when we're just getting to know each other. I don't mind guys not paying, as long as they're up front about it. Don't say you'll buy dinner when you clearly don't have enough cash. Offer to split the bill instead. And finally, keep your hands to yourself. The last thing I want when I first meet a guy is for him get all gropy on me. I'm sure there are some people who're ok with at least making out on the first date, but there are a lot of people who aren't. Be polite, and don't be pushy.
Danielle just, too funny. Allie I have not seen the movie, but I have seen the show. Before I tell all of you mine, let metell you what people have said. Remember these are just a few of the things people have told me.
1. It would be a date ender if she has hair under her arm pits.
2. If she farts on the first date.
3. If he tells me that he's by-sexual.
4. If she asks me to meet her mom.
5. If he blows his nose at the table.
6. If his shoes are dirty.
7. If I find female clothing in his car.
8. If he or she spends all of their time with me on the phone.
9. If they try to have sex on the first date.
10. If he or she starts hitting on other people while we're out.
For me, I guess a date ender for me is if she gets drunk on the first date. Let me modify that by saying if she gets drunk and loud on the first date, there will be no second.
confessing of undying love, and an inability to wash, or at least have a shower in a can, are huge turn offs for me!
I always brought a can of showers to first dates (or I would if I knew they existed). If she needed at least two chairs at the restaurant table I think I'd call it a (bad) date, if she had nothing to say or if she went on about how great and giving she was I'd pretty much tell her I had insufficient cash, thus making her not go on a second date and save myself some money. If I found out she was a vegan or strictly anti alcoholic or not interested in food, life styles that just wouldn't work with mine, if she smoked and I found out on first date I'd be shallow and say bye bye. If she was a man I think I'd cancel even before dinner.
Oh, B, how shallow of you! *grin* you wouldn't even have drinks with him? He might even pay!
I too wonder what a shower in a can is?B, what would you do if you found out that your date with a she, turned out to be a date with a he? I mean by this, he's picked you up, taken you out in his car and over dinner he tells you that, he's not really a she.
Good question, would probably tell him it was not my cup of (insert favorite liquid here) and also that I certainly appreciated the fact it came up over dinner rather than in a bed room somewhere. Might also offer him pictures of me in a dress in exchange for him paying for drinks, no wait, is that illegal?
a shower in a can? It means spraying yourself with deoderant just before going out if you didn't have the time for, or could be bothered to, have a shower.
Oh, I thought that was called "a French bath". ;)
*grin* Don't like the french then? Well, over here, it goes by many names, but usually, it fingers an area you don't like... But the dislikes vary from region to region, and the general term is a shower in a can.
If she tried to shit on me, there would be no second date. If she pulled out a dick bigger than mine, there would be no second date. Wait, let me refraise that. If she pulled out a dick at all, there would be no second date. If her hand smelled like tuna, there would be no second date. If she started talking about her sex excapaids with her cows and/or other animals, there would be no second date. And, finally, if she starts telling me about her recent graduation from kidneygarden, there would have definatly been no second date, nor a first. *sorry, my name isn't kyle*. LOL
I'd have to say bad grooming habits, like b.o. Also, chewing with her mouth open. God that actually does make me sick!
Jen